We’ve
talked about this before, but we wanted to add to this idea a little. We know
that relationships are not a static or stagnant state of being. They required
consistent work and a lot of it. Of course, there is always an element of
choice. We can choose to do the work and reap the benefits, or we can choose to
rest on our laurels and see how long that lasts. Anyone who has an older child
know there is wisdom in choosing the first option. The grudgingly answered
questions and the monosyllables or one-word answers are enough to drive anyone
crazy. So today covers EVEN MORE great ways to ensure you and your child have a
relationship of open communication.
Connect To Strengthen
In all
relationships there will be highs and there will be lows. Sometimes it is
smooth sailing and sometimes it feels like we are constantly at odds with each
other. And even though those low points are hard and hurt more than we like to
acknowledge, they’re even more cutting when we weren’t connected in the first
place. As parents we can expect some of the stickier hurdles of growth. So in
the times of plenty don’t take that connection for granted. Shore up that
connection and strengthen that bond so that even when it is taxed it does not
break. It makes those times of hardship that more manageable when you know that
at the root of it, you’re still on the same team and craving to get back to
that connection you had previously.
Connect To Create
Memories
Do you
remember the wonder of childhood? Do you remember the magic of sharing
something you love for the first time with your child or exploring something new
together? Eventually it feels like that magic is gone and there is no way to
recreate it, but there are truly countless ways to bring that magic back and
create some memories. It doesn’t have to be crazy big either. As we’ve grown
older Christmas has changed. Our needs are different and less exciting. So, one
way we brought the magic back is by having an adult scavenger hunt with our
presents. For 30 minutes we frantically rush around Walmart looking for “a blue
liquid for $5 or less,” “something rectangular for $15” etc. And so, while in
truth we’re grabbing much needed socks and cleaning supplies, we’re having a
blast doing it. Do an Easter Egg hunt but use money. Have a costume dinner
party in the middle of the week. Pick out good will outfits and wear them to
chick fil a. Have a bake off in your own home and then eat only dessert for
dinner. We can add a little magic and make every day that much more
extraordinary by creating small memorable moments our family won’t soon forget.
Connect To Build A Legacy
Our
children should carry forward the best parts of us. However, this doesn’t just
happen without some forethought and effort. If we aren’t consciously trying to
instill our strongest character traits and morale’s in our children, then they
are only absorbing what they perceive us to be doing. Sometimes that can work
in your favor but not always. So, take time to develop your legacy. Live life
the way you want your children to remember you. Make times for what is
important. Work is great but that isn’t the legacy your children want or
deserve. Build into your lifestyle a legacy of love, service, creativity, adventure,
gratitude, humor, or whatever it is that is special and unique to you. When our
time on this earth is no more it is our legacy and the way we lived our lives
that will stand out to our children, and they will always have to carry with
and guide them. Make sure it’s a legacy worthy of that task.
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Parenting
is the single most important job you will have in your lifetime. It is capable
of being the most impactful on you and your child so take time to re-center and
refocus. And keep up the great work Warrior parents!
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